The way we enter this world can influence the direction of our growth; be it that we arrive in a nest filled with Love and Wisdom or that we find ourselves in what appears to be the deepest, darkest, depths of sorrow. Nonetheless, it is we who give meaning to these moments, because the Truth is, no matter how you enter this world and no matter how you define the place you are in right now, EVERYTHING is available to you. It may not always be obvious to you, but you are always influencing the direction of change in your life. Because the “deepest, darkest, depths of sorrow” are actually Love and Wisdom in disguise.
There are a plethora of dreams available for you to buy, here in our version of reality.
The American Dream
The Struggle Dream
The Picket Fence Dream
There are an endless number of dreams available for you to buy and they are being sold left and right. If you are in modern society, you can’t turn your head without a salesperson, trying to sell you one of these dreams. It is helpful to know, that you must first buy them, for them to apply to your life. What dream have you purchased?
The more focused and centered I become, the more I see each moment as a salesperson.
The person yelling racial slurs is merely a salesperson, asking you to buy their dream. You don’t have to, but you can.
The person you are dating, who is telling you, “you are not enough,” is a salesperson, asking you to buy their dream. You don’t have to, but you can.
The person telling you, you are capable of achieving everything you imagine in this world. That person is a salesperson, asking you to buy their dream. You don’t have to, but you can.
These moments are not things that are “happening to us”, they are offers to buy. From there, we choose.
Someone once told me, “the only difference between you and the people you admire, is that they handle the same situations you encounter, in a different way.”
This society provides so many examples of people making purchases that do not align with what they truly desire for themselves, because they believe they have to. There is no need to feel ashamed, when you learn that you are responsible for having bought the dream you are in. Television shows are called programs because they program you. And you have seen, since birth, so many instances of people buying dreams they don’t want and it can influence you to do the same.
“He cheated on me, it’s because there’s something wrong with me.”
“You lied and so I am angry.”
“No one listens to me because, I don’t matter.”
Perhaps your parents, your friends have all bought dreams they don’t truly want, but that doesn’t mean you have to and it doesn’t mean they can’t make better purchases in the future. These ways of being are choices. You can respond differently to life. You can already see how you respond differently to things than you once did.
As a child when Mom told you “no” maybe you cried. Then, you got older and when she said “no” you asked Dad. Then, you got even older and when she said “no” you negotiated with her. This alone is evidence that what is happening does not define how your life will be, it merely asks, how you will respond. And the dream you bought, dictates your response.
My friend, you are Hamlet. And when you step out into the world and encounter these salespeople, selling dreams on every corner, you just ask yourself, “To be or not to be?”
The man who was too afraid to follow his dreams and sits in the same bar every night, repeating his limiting beliefs over and over again. To be or not to be.
The woman who stays focused, keeps to herself, and silently makes moves to benefit her. To be or not be.
The person surrounded by friends who love and cherish them. To be or not to be.
The couple in an unhappy marriage. To be or not to be.
Our human bodies have a special mirroring tool. It is easily seen when someone is very happy and excited and so we become very happy and excited. Or when someone starts yelling, so we start yelling. We have the ability to turn this mirroring tool off and put ourselves in a place that says, this person’s behavior is not about me, it is just asking me, “to be or not be.” And when we can manage not to get dramatic in the midst of drama, it becomes easier and easier to see everyone as a salesperson asking us to buy stock in their dream.
When you pick up a pen, how do you do it? When you are driving a car, how do you do it? Do you actually know how the brain sends the impulse to the hand to pick up the pen? Do you fully comprehend how your fingers adjust the grip on the steering wheel? No, you just make a decision and nature does the rest.
You don’t need to know how it will come to pass, you only decide; to be or not to be. That is the question.